Unto the Least of These

A place for all of my random musings. Added accountability for my choice to be gentle. An online reminder that how I treat those around me - especially the children - is how I treat the King of Kings.

Location: United States

Sunday, July 02, 2006

Is there a difference?

I had a very productive conversation with one of my SIL's yesterday. It's hard *not* to compare my son with other people's children. And I do know I've been blessed with an adorable child.

However, SIL #1 was comparing my son with SIL #2's children, who have been raised with the terrorizing tactics of Michael Pearl. Up until this point, SIL#1 has professed to believe that I am absolutely nuts for my non-violent approach to parenting. However, she's noticed that SIL#2's oldest child hits his little sister immediately following every switching. Go figure, huh? The thought that hitting teaches hitting - what a bizarre idea!

SIL#1 was asking me questions, and actually wanting to hear why we've come to the conclusions we have in parenting.

And I posed a question to her that really, really disturbed her. Here it is:

"When you did something wrong as a child, what if instead of spanking, your father had reached down and slowly fondled your buttocks?"

She turned about 5 shades of green, and said 'That is TOTALLY disgusting! Why would you say such a thing?'

My answer?

'Why is it any different? The same hand, the same buttock - but because he caused physical pain instead of emotional pain, it's called discipline and not sexual assault.'

She didn't have a response to that, other than 'That really makes me think...'


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